When Should You Start Talking to Kids About Substance Use?

There’s no magic formula when it comes to talking to kids about substance use, but experts suggest starting young. As you gradually introduce the idea of drugs and alcohol to your child, their understanding about what they are and what your expectations are surrounding them will grow. Some experts say to start introducing the word “drug” as young as five years old, and these conversations about substance use will really begin to turn into a common conversation once they reach late elementary school or early middle school. 

If you have young children, begin by introducing medications as products that are only taken when prescribed by a doctor. Explain that a certain amount of the medication is good for you, but it can become dangerous if too much is taken. If you drink around your child, be sure to explain why only adults can drink that substance and answer any questions honestly.  

As your child nears the teen years, begin asking them what they’ve heard about drugs from their peers or at school. It’s important to start keeping communication about substance use open from an early age so that they are more likely to be open with you as a teenager. You might talk more about specific substances such as alcohol, marijuana, nicotine, and prescription drugs. Emphasize that anyone under the age of 21 has a brain that is still developing, and even if adults use these substances, they are not safe for children. 

If you have teenagers, keep your expectations clear when it comes to substance use. Talk about the many consequences of substance use. Teens are more likely to be responsive to short-term consequences, like legal consequences, hangovers, athletic performance, and addiction. Make sure to make your talks about substance use a two-way conversation rather than a one-way lecture. Continually ask your teen what they are hearing or experiencing when it comes to substance use. Be honest about any past use in your own life and answer their questions.  

Every family and every child is different, but talking about substance use is important for everyone. Keeping the conversation open and ongoing is a great way to encourage your child to live healthily and stay away from substances until the age of 21.